Posts tagged: dating
1. Accept nothing but a proper date the first few times you go out. I don’t care if it is a ballgame that costs $5. Ice cream on picnic tables or dessert at a coffee shop. Money has nothing to do with it. Intention is the key.
2. Go somewhere neutral. A club is not a date. Bumping and grinding on someone you just met will probably not get you flowers or a love note or a date with that person three months from now. The only thing that will come of this is another notch on his belt.
3. Waffling should trigger your creep meter. Good guys take their commitments seriously and plan. Plans can go awry…and if they do, is he the type that leaves you hanging with lame excuses or the one that will give you a heartfelt apology?
4. If he says everything right and does everything wrong, he is wrong. Actions don’t lie.
It’s not how you speak, it’s the way in which you speak.
You don’t have to be loud or boisterous. You don’t have to be quiet and brooding.
Money doesn’t matter.
You either have it or you don’t, and oftentimes, the first impression is the one that sticks in her mind.
It’s how you carry yourself.
It’s called Presence
The trick is finding someone that you are attracted to enough, that if after an amazing week they looked at you over dinner and said, “I love you”, and your heart melted, instead of winced thinking, “how creepy”?
All of us have wondered (well, not really) how the ditzy, yet attractive girl always gets the guy you have a crush on or the really nice and sweet gal always goes out with the neanderthal that treats her like dirt?
The thing is, Brad Pitt (or insert whoever your star crush is) could show up on your front door for a first date, bring you flowers, take you to an extravagant restaurant, share a desert afterwards while sitting on a quiet coffee shop couch talking for hours, text you on the way home, and the next day could leave you a long letter about how great a night he had and you would think, “Wow! He is the most romantic guy in the world”!
…But if someone you were not as attracted to, yet went out with anyway did the same thing, you might think, “weird, too early, too forward”, etc, etc.
Unfortunately, we don’t all pick who is necessarily the most compatible personality wise…and if you make that mistake, you’ll most certainly regret it years later because STRONG physical attraction is never enough (but I won’t deny, it is a factor in people getting together initially).
What I am saying is, be picky…when it comes to who you envision will be the Father or Mother to your children in 10 years.
Be picky…when it comes to a persons loyalty to you. How much you trust them. How, when you are most down, they would be the first one you would run to and the last to let you go.
Be picky…when it comes to someone who is unequivocally for you, not because of what you do, but because you are.
In the end, you have to ask yourself: Will this person make my life happier or harder?
It’s a little different when you allow God to do the the picking, and trust me, he does have someone picked out specifically for you. He won’t be perfect. He won’t say all of the right things. He may not be all of the right things, but he will love you until the end. He will be your best friend. And he will show up on God’s time
Believe me, it took a lot more courage to call you up and ask for a date then it will for you to pick up, answer…and quickly say no.
Be nice. Tell him, “I just don’t feel like we click romantically, but I would still like the opportunity to call you a friend if that is o.k. with you”.
Better to let him walk away with his head high, saying to himself, “maybe we don’t click…and later in conversation with his buddies complimenting you on how, “classy/nice/good you were in saying no”.
Who knows, you might get asked out four years later by one of his friends that when asked about you, recalls what a nice gal you were when some girls choose the low road instead?
And anyway…having a little good Karma never hurts anyone does it?
They are never “taking a break from dating right now”, when they are attracted to you
