The trick is finding someone that you are attracted to enough, that if after an amazing week they looked at you over dinner and said, “I love you”, and your heart melted, instead of winced thinking, “how creepy”?

All of us have wondered (well, not really) how the ditzy, yet attractive girl always gets the guy you have a crush on or the really nice and sweet gal always goes out with the neanderthal that treats her like dirt?  

The thing is, Brad Pitt (or insert whoever your star crush is) could show up on your front door for a first date, bring you flowers, take you to an extravagant restaurant, share a desert afterwards while sitting on a quiet coffee shop couch talking for hours, text you on the way home, and the next day could leave you a long letter about how great a night he had and you would think, “Wow!  He is the most romantic guy in the world”!  

…But if someone you were not as attracted to, yet went out with anyway did the same thing, you might think, “weird, too early, too forward”, etc, etc. 

Unfortunately, we don’t all pick who is necessarily the most compatible personality wise…and if you make that mistake, you’ll most certainly regret it years later because STRONG physical attraction is never enough (but I won’t deny, it is a factor in people getting together initially).

What I am saying is, be picky…when it comes to who you envision will be the Father or Mother to your children in 10 years.  

Be picky…when it comes to a persons loyalty to you.  How much you trust them.  How, when you are most down, they would be the first one you would run to and the last to let you go.

Be picky…when it comes to someone who is unequivocally for you, not because of what you do, but because you are.