That “hole” you speak about, I call the FATHER, God.  When we make our friends, our money, our popularity, our house, our car, our boyfriend/wife/girlfriend/husband…our God (our focus), we end up very frustrated people because those things are all temporary.  You’ll know the evidence of this because as people, we are never satisfied.  There is always something he/she could be doing better.  A newer car.  A newer phone.  A faster computer.  A better job.  

Society will tell you that you can “Eat, Self-worship, and Love” yourself to happiness by discovering some deeper meaning in you…but I have never been totally satisfied with myself for any real length of time and I’ll assure you, I’ve read and done and wrote as much as anyone trying to figure out how to be more happy outside of God…and everything I have done always, at the end of the day points back to me or something else trying to replace HIM?  HE is always enough.

I understand, if you are not a “believer” and instead only believe in what you can physically touch than this concept is as foreign as trying to explain the concept of Love, when the only way you can describe it are by the things that make you feel love and prove love, but not actually love itself as something you can hold in your hand.

Your question seems to imply that she should always be there for you and not be able to have a love life because it would infringe on your time with her?   I am not sure how you see this as realistic when nearly every human on earth, whether they like to admit it or not, is searching for love.  I enjoy hanging out with my friends as much as anyone, but they will never replace my wife and can’t even touch the relationship I have with my Heavenly Father…and my guess is, if lightening struck and some guy was goo-goo-ga-ga over you, you would probably feel the same as she does.  

Unless you see yourself spending the rest of your with her…then I hate to say this, but you may need to re-think your priorities…for her.

With respect,

Dad