They either are or are not.  In two or five years, they still will be.  Quit trying to change them.  They are what they are.  They either fit the picture you want or they don’t.  I’m not saying they can’t improve in area’s but you can’t make a sports car a mini-van or vice-versa.  You have to accept that sometimes, people are the way they are and no matter what you want them to be or how well you explain it to them, they will still remain the way they are or the way that makes them most comfortable.  

The reason people have such a hard time finding “the one” is because of this very thing.  

Have you ever visited a place for the first time and instantly fell in love with it?  Did it take effort to love it or did it just happen almost as if it was just sitting there waiting to be discovered by you?

Relationships work much the same way…on the front end.  I am not saying that work isn’t in store for you down the road because there will be lots of it.  The thing you have to ask yourself is, will you be going to “work” begrudgingly, or is it something you look forward to doing every day, even though you know it may be tough at times?  

That is the difference.  That is the choice you have to make.  That is the essential ingredient you have to have to make it work years from now. 

Great relationships…they all have this