The mistake I have made consistently throughout my life is thinking, by sheer will, I can make things change…when the reality is, I can’t.  I am only responsible for me and my thoughts.  I can’t make another person act a certain way or be a certain way.  I can only influence.  I can’t change another person that doesn’t want to change despite my best intentions.  I can’t heal a person that doesn’t see themselves as sick.

It is a tough life lesson:  The more you try and control the more out of control you will often feel.  I am not saying let go necessarily, but I am saying, at times, it’s o.k. to let off of the accelerator.  

To drop your expectations.  

To sometimes just be…and not in some kind of meditative, self-worship kind of way, but just to recognize the insanity of thinking you have some immense role in how your life is or will be or was because of something you said or did or didn’t do.  I wish it were that simple.  I wish I could just decide and it would be, but so many times, life, God, others you decide to love have different plans and sometimes…you have to ride the wave that is before you