1.  Accept nothing but a proper date the first few times you go out.  I don’t care if it is a ballgame that costs $5.  Ice cream on picnic tables or dessert at a coffee shop.  Money has nothing to do with it. Intention is the key.

2. Go somewhere neutral.  A club is not a date.  Bumping and grinding on someone you just met will probably not get you flowers or a love note or a date with that person three months from now.  The only thing that will come of this is another notch on his belt.

3. Waffling should trigger your creep meter.  Good guys take their commitments seriously and plan.  Plans can go awry…and if they do, is he the type that leaves you hanging with lame excuses or the one that will give you a heartfelt apology?

4. If he says everything right and does everything wrong, he is wrong.  Actions don’t lie.